{"product_id":"letter-023-enough-is-a-supermarket-metaphor","title":"Letter 023 — Enough Is a Supermarket Metaphor","description":"\u003cp\u003eEnough is a supermarket metaphor.\u003cbr\u003eDear me,\u003cbr\u003e10pm and the group chat Singles is exploding on my display.\u003cbr\u003eVoice messages, funny gifs, and the inevitable man talk.\u003cbr\u003eI am avoidant in my replies.\u003cbr\u003eIn my head they sound sharper than I mean them to.\u003cbr\u003eAnd I am sitting here thinking — should I confront my friend, or should I support her?\u003cbr\u003eAnd what is the difference, if I actually care about her?\u003cbr\u003eOne gives me the halo.\u003cbr\u003eThe other will most likely pull her away from sharing next time.\u003cbr\u003eOr worse — make her hate me for being right, if I turn out to be right.\u003cbr\u003eThe villain is external. You can blame him and survive the story.\u003cbr\u003eBut your friend being right kills the fantasy completely.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e—\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSo isn't it the same with I am enough?\u003cbr\u003eWho do you think learns to swim better — the kid thrown into the pool with no choice, or the one waiting to feel ready?\u003cbr\u003eOne of the coaches produces champions.\u003cbr\u003eThe other produces people who almost made it.\u003cbr\u003eAnd they are both called love.\u003cbr\u003eA good teacher should be hated just a little.\u003cbr\u003eI was the one waiting to feel ready.\u003cbr\u003eAnd I wish someone had pushed me toward the sharks and slapped the victimhood I was so dramatically crowned in, right off my head.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e—\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEnough kept me very, very busy.\u003cbr\u003eAnd very, very blind.\u003cbr\u003eHere's what nobody tells you about victim mentality — it's not weakness.\u003cbr\u003eIt's an incredibly sophisticated survival strategy.\u003cbr\u003eAs long as you are enough, you never have to change anything.\u003cbr\u003eYou never have to risk anything.\u003cbr\u003eYou never have to fail in front of witnesses.\u003cbr\u003eAnd failure in front of witnesses — that is the real terror.\u003cbr\u003eNot failure itself.\u003cbr\u003eThe audience for it.\u003cbr\u003eEnough keeps you offstage.\u003cbr\u003eAnd offstage people confuse safety with peace.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e—\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDear me,\u003cbr\u003eIf you are truly content — why are you asking yourself if you are enough?\u003cbr\u003eThat question only appears when underneath all the positive affirmations, all the healing talk, you already know the answer.\u003cbr\u003eEnough isn't a compliment.\u003cbr\u003eEnough is a life-sized excuse.\u003cbr\u003eAnd I never asked myself once I actually started saying no to for the last time.\u003cbr\u003eWhat is enough for you already says enough.\u003cbr\u003eThe only control I have is to stay or to go.\u003cbr\u003eI understand how harsh that sounds.\u003cbr\u003eAnd how lonely.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e—\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eI am realising I have no tolerance left for victimhood.\u003cbr\u003eAnd the crown needs to be burned.\u003cbr\u003eNot handed over.\u003cbr\u003eSo I refuse to give you the comfort talk.\u003cbr\u003eAnd if that's not your way — we just swim in different size pools.\u003cbr\u003eI also understand that I am retiring from the theatre — as the main victim act and every supporting role attached to it.\u003cbr\u003eThe people I want around me now are the ones who can take it.\u003cbr\u003eThe ones who know to hate the teacher a little but never lose respect for the lesson.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e—\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDear me,\u003cbr\u003eEnough is a supermarket metaphor.\u003cbr\u003eEnough to stock the shelves.\u003cbr\u003eNot enough to run the place.\u003cbr\u003eI am done stocking shelves in a life I built too small for the woman currently causing problems inside it.\u003cbr\u003eShe needs more room.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e—\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHe is an asshole. You can tell by the way he carries himself.\u003cbr\u003eAnd if you want to continue trying with him, at least make sure he doesn't have you unless he tries real hard for it.\u003cbr\u003eAnd I sent it to the group chat.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e—\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e1:42am.\u003cbr\u003eGreen light notification.\u003cbr\u003eHe just left my house. I fucked him.\u003cbr\u003eEgo hates witnesses more than loneliness.\u003cbr\u003eIs this enough?\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Love Letters To Myself","offers":[{"title":"Default","offer_id":57916284862795,"sku":null,"price":1.49,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1064\/4802\/7979\/files\/LLTM_Banner_2_532b61ab-efb9-4779-8ca8-c82e2cca10c5.jpg?v=1785562917","url":"https:\/\/loveletterstomyself.co\/products\/letter-023-enough-is-a-supermarket-metaphor","provider":"Love Letters To Myself","version":"1.0","type":"link"}